Getting to know a new person is one of the most exciting times in a relationship, but can also be the least honest. In the race to ‘win’ we sometimes can find ourselves doing exactly what the other person wants us to do, rather than being our true selves. Here are a few of the most common mistakes couples can make when playing the dating game.
Lack of communication – This is the number one relationship killer. You can’t talk with someone or expect that you are being heard while the TV is on, or the computer is sitting on your lap, or you are checking the latest Twitter feed. If you find that it’s time to talk, make an appointment with each other that doesn’t include kids, phones, TV’s or the internet.
Learn how to communicate effectively – Shouting doesn’t help anything, and will only make things worse. Allow your partner to finish their thought and do not interrupt; always insist on the same respect. Do not start a sentence with “You never” or “You always”. No one ever ‘always’ does something, so don’t exaggerate to make a point. Make eye contact while the conversation is occurring, don’t stare out of the window or act uninterested. When your partner finishes their comments, make sure to let them know that you understand their point. If things get too heated, walk away for a while and let thing cool down before continuing the conversation.
Know when to drop it – Someone once told me “never go to bed mad”. What a bunch of hooey! There’s nothing more aggravating than a partner who won’t let you go to bed at two in the morning because they want to keep arguing. Sometimes letting it go overnight will allow you both to see that in the light of day, the problem was not as dire as you thought.
Get some professional help – At some point you may realize that neither of you are seeing the others side of the issue; this may be the time to enlist professional help. A third party who is not related in any way to either partner can hear both sides objectively, and can help you to see through the red haze of anger.
Communication is the most important part of every relationship; without communication we cannot know how the other side feels or what they are thinking. Never submit to a person or relationship that is hurtful; this pertains to emotional pain as well as physical.
Online dating is a trending method through which men or women searching for compatible partners come together through the internet with the objective of having a personal or romantic relationship. People make their own profiles, describe themselves and share the qualities they are looking for in a potential partner and thus, try to find the perfect match.
Online relationships or dating offer a huge amount of advantage. One is not confined to the place where he resides. People can search the entire world over the internet and get in touch with people from all over the world. People can see the photographs and also listen to voice messages left by their potential partners and decide accordingly. Some online dating sites also provide personality tests, which help one find a more compatible partner. Online communication is a safe as well as a convenient interaction and also there is no fear of commitment initially. Gradually when we fall deep into a relationship we can take the next step and meet up. Through the internet you can share your intentions beforehand without any fear and hence get the desired partner who has the same set of intentions. Cost effectiveness is also one of the most important benefits of online dating. One does not need to spend money on dining or on any sort of entertainment.
While a person is in an online relationship there are some tips which one should keep in mind. One should make good use of smileys which expresses your current mood. Also one should be patient and deal with situations in a calm manner even if the partner takes some time in replying back. Don’t take all the responses personally at the first instance. Try to understand patiently what the person wants to communicate. One of the most important things is to show a positive approach while talking to strangers if you want the relationship to grow stronger. And last but not the least behave in a responsible manner and give space to each other. Do not feel insecure.
There are great success stories which we have heard regarding partners hooking up online and then settling and leading a happy life. The owners of this website were also lucky enough to meet each other through one of the online dating sites and today they are happily married with two kids. That is what the magic of online dating can do. So give it a chance and see the people going crazy for you around the world.